Flavour Shares Experience Of Overcoming A Two-Year Addiction

Nigerian singer Flavour has discussed a significant personal challenge he faced related to a two-year struggle with masturbation and the journey he undertook to overcome it.

During a TikTok Live session with fans and friends, Flavour, whose real name is Chinedu Okoli, reflected on his early experiences with intimacy and the emotional difficulties that ensued, including the guidance he sought from others.

He revealed that his situation changed after he lost his virginity at 24. Flavour shared that he became emotionally attached to the woman, but after losing contact with her, he found himself struggling with emotions he could not manage.

“After getting disvirgined at 24, I began to look for the girl that disvirgined me, but at that time, there was no phone. She gave me her email, so I was going to the Cyber Café to email her back and forth. There was no response, so I gave up, and I had never had a girlfriend at the time aside from a normal childhood crush, and nothing happened between us.”

Struggling to cope, he confided in a friend who introduced him to adult dance videos, leading to a habit he found difficult to break.

“I opened up to one of my street guys that the issue is giving me trouble. The guy then told me about Makoupa (a traditional African twerking dance adult content). I then went to get the Mapouka CDs. Once everyone had slept in the house, I would watch it prepared. I even used Morning Fresh soap sometimes.”

Flavour described this time as particularly challenging, noting that the addiction left him feeling ashamed and fatigued. Seeking help, he approached his mother’s pastor for spiritual guidance.

“I did it to the point I didn’t have strength. I was so ashamed and needed to talk to someone. I was looking for someone to talk to because it is not something you can go to your dad or mum to talk about. So, I went to see my mother’s pastor and waited for every other person to leave. I entered and opened up to him that I had an issue and had been looking for someone to talk to, and my spirit led me to him.”

The pastor provided him with Bible passages, prayer points, and a 21-day spiritual exercise. However, Flavour later admitted that these efforts did not last, and he relapsed while preparing for a performance.

“So I explained everything, and he gave me some prayer points and Bible verses I had to read every day. He gave me verses I had to read for 21 days. Then, I started fasting and all; it wasn’t even up to the weekend. That weekend I had a show, and the moment I started seeing girls’ shapes as I was mounting the stage, I entered the toilet.”

He then sought advice from an older Cameroonian bassist in his band, who provided a different perspective and encouraged him to take a proactive approach.

“It was back to square one. Finally, I mustered the courage and approached one of our Cameroonian band members, an elderly bassist. I opened up to him that the thing had been disturbing me for a long time, and he asked me how long I had been doing it, and I said two years consecutively. The bassist then told me the only reason I was caught in it is that I don’t have regular sex with a woman. He stated that seeing the girls at that age, I had to start engaging. After the whole thing, the man then took me to a brothel because it was difficult to find women, and that’s how the asewo (prostitute) was born.”

Flavour explained that he would use a portion of the money he earned from performances to visit sex workers, which ultimately helped him stop the habit of masturbation.

His honest account has prompted discussions online, with fans responding to his openness about a personal struggle. His story highlights the challenges he faced before becoming a well-known musician in Nigeria and the various paths he considered to find a solution.

View this post on Instagram

Related Posts:

Kcee Comments On The Rumored Dispute With Flavour Flavour Advises Men Against Pursuing Married Women, Combining Humor And Insight Tyler The Creator Will Perform At The 2026 Grammy Awards Soulja Boy Responds To PlaqueBoyMax Claiming He Is The First Grammy-Nominated Streamer